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47 Years of Marriage Taught Dad One Thing: Earrings Are Consumables

When Mom lost an earring and felt awful about it, Dad's two-sentence response said everything about what decades of love actually looks like.

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There’s something quietly striking about a person who’s been married long enough to have seen everything — and who responds to the small crises of everyday life with calm clarity instead of frustration or lectures. When a Japanese woman shared a brief moment from her parents’ home, it resonated with a lot of people.

Her mother had lost one of her earrings and was feeling genuinely down about it. Her father — 47 years into their marriage — just said, matter-of-factly: “Earrings are consumables. It happens. Let’s go buy new ones.” The daughter’s reaction was essentially: wow, that’s a different kind of backbone. And she wasn’t wrong.

From there, the comments opened into a surprisingly warm discussion — about the wisdom of calling fragile things “consumable,” the quiet but meaningful difference between “just buy another one” and “let’s go buy new ones,” and what it actually means to be good at being with someone for a very long time.

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When Mom lost one of her earrings and was really down about it, Dad just casually said, “Earrings are consumables — it happens, let’s go buy new ones.” That’s the backbone of someone 47 years into a marriage. I’d never thought of them as consumables before.
What a wonderful dad!!!!!
Now that’s a power phrase.
So lovely. I want that kind of gentleness too. Calling them “consumables” specifically so she doesn’t feel guilty about losing them — that’s a level my husband hasn’t reached yet.
Earrings may be consumables, but the love clearly isn’t. That’s the really lovely part.
Earrings are consumables. I’m absolutely adding this one to my vocabulary.
Even pierced earrings fall out sometimes, so I want to adopt this mindset too (and just buy them myself). (In Japan, イヤリング refers specifically to clip-on earrings; ピアス means the pierced kind — clip-ons are generally considered easier to lose, hence why many people here mention switching.)
In sumo stables, even toilet seats are consumables…! (Sumo wrestlers are enormous, so equipment in their training houses tends to get worn through at a rather impressive rate.)
Car bumpers are consumables too. The world is full of consumables when you think about it.
No matter how much you love something, all things with physical form will eventually… you know.
You do drop and lose them, so yeah, “consumable” actually checks out.
Earrings AND rings are consumables……
Because earrings are consumables, I can’t really bring myself to buy expensive ones… (not saying I won’t buy them)
Yep, earrings are consumables. I’ve got SO many lone earrings at home. So I can’t bring myself to buy expensive ones lately — I’ve literally lost them the same day I got them.
Clip-on earrings were such consumables it was painful, so I just got my ears pierced. Also — people who NEVER lose earrings are genuinely impressive.
I want to think of pierced earrings as consumables too, but it’s just… hard…
Back in the day, pearl earrings were genuine consumables. Many a man found himself in quite a spot when one turned up somewhere very inconvenient.
(For reference: I once told my wife “Why do you wear them if you’re just going to lose them?” and got absolutely reamed for it.)
Whether they’re actually consumables or not is beside the point — the vocabulary and communication skills to make someone think “well, can’t be helped” and feel better about it are impressive. The dad must be quite capable in professional life too.
The “consumables” framing is great, but what really gets me is the word choice of “let’s go buy new ones.” “Just buy another one” feels cold; “let’s go buy new ones” feels like he’s right there with her. It might seem like a small thing from the husband’s side, but for the wife, those little moments are exactly what add up.
The way he casually signals she’s not at fault while also turning it into an excuse for a date — impressive. Being able to smooth over the atmosphere and gently tend to the family relationship like that, he’s genuinely capable.
My dad has zero interest in jewelry or fine kimonos — diamonds are just “little rocks” and ivory is just “the white stuff.” When Mom loses something and gets upset, he says “just buy another one” and she resents him for it. He doesn’t get that great-grandma’s heirlooms or one-of-a-kind items can’t be replaced — he thinks everything can be bought like a can 🥫 from a vending machine.
Something my mom told me: she once said to my dad, “A simple kamaboko will do for a wedding ring” — meaning she wasn’t asking for anything fancy. He drove all the way to Odawara (a city in Kanagawa Prefecture famous for kamaboko, a type of steamed fish cake) and came home with a full assortment of them.
This reminded me of my husband’s go-to line whenever I lose important jewelry or break an expensive dish: “All things with form are finite.” It’s become his catchphrase before comforting me lol. These days, whenever HE starts feeling down about losing or breaking something, I say it back to him — and he has no comeback 😂

My take

That casual delivery is what makes it land. Forty-seven years of everything will do that to a person, I suppose.

Comments loosely translated for tone.

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